Relationships are paramount to our health and well-being. Research suggests that social connections can lower anxiety and depression, boost immunity, and may even lengthen lifespan. The reverse is also true. Loneliness can decrease a sense of contentment, disrupt sleep, increase cortisol (a stress hormone), and elevate blood pressure. A decades-long Harvard study found that positive relationships are a primary contributor to health, happiness, and longevity. This article summarizes the findings and discusses seven cornerstones of social support.

At times, it can be easy to take our relationships for granted and we may not consider the helpfulness of actively cultivating and nurturing them. However, relationships need to be fostered to keep them strong and enhance the positive impact they have on our daily lives. It can be useful to think about the types of relationships you currently have with others, the types of relationships you would like to have, and ways you may improve the quality of your relationships. Perhaps you would like to expand your social circle or feel a deeper sense of emotional closeness in your primary relationships.

Strengthening Social Connections

• Reach out to people you already know. Send someone a text, email, or give them a call. If they live locally, plan a time to get together.

• Talk to others regularly. We don’t necessarily need to see someone in person to feel connected to them. Schedule a routine phone call with a loved one.

• Engage in quality time together. Sometimes our seemingly closest relationships are the ones we take for granted the most. Just because you see your partner daily, for example, does not mean you are spending quality time together. Turn off devices, limit distractions, and carve out time for giving your relationships attention and care.

• Practice honest and direct communication. It is important to have someone you can talk to honestly about how you are feeling. Talking openly builds a sense of emotional closeness and trust.

• Cultivate shared interests within current, or potential, relationships. Engage in an activity that is mutually enjoyed. Perhaps you love going to concerts with a specific friend because you both like a certain band. Or, you decide to join a local hiking group.

• Meet new people. Talk to people you see regularly such as someone at your gym or another frequent customer at the local coffee shop. Join a local hobby group or volunteer.

• Be out and about. It is difficult to meet people sitting at home! Go to a bookstore, coffee shop, or park. Visit the local library or community theater. Being out and about creates the opportunity to meet people and build connections.

If you are interested in learning more about ways to enhance your relationships and social support, please contact us at CBTDenver.